Spring is the time of birth, flowers blooming, animals birthing and mother nature opening herself up to the warmth of the season. But when you are in grief, it is so hard to feel the joy of this season.
Spring has always been difficult for me. It was on a warm, June morning when I heard the cries of agony from my mother telling me my brother was dead. Then many years later, as I tried to find my way back into the joys of spring, my father died shortly after Easter. Spring triggers mournful memories for me.
Now I understand that entering into the afterlife is a time of joy. I look upon the dates of their deaths as times of birth, a birth into their heavenly home. I use this time to light a candle and sit in a special meditation to reconnect with my brother and father. I know that walking my path on earth must continue longer, but one day it will be my time to cross over, and we will all be together again.
But for now let the seasons be your teachers. Allow yourself to embrace the birth of spring yet find acceptance for the endings of fall. As we watch the cycle of life, we must accepts its impermanence. Stay in the moment and take pleasure in each day, to fully live life, so one day at your time of death your soul can transition into spirit with peace.
-Marianne
Comments (7)
Dear Marianne,
My daughter became ill with cancer and she came to live with me so I could take care of her. She brought her beloved cat Tabby who stayed by her bedside. My daughter died 3 years ago, and Tabby still sits on my daughter's bed. But Tabby doesn't seem sad; she seems happy, even content. She sits there and purrs. Could my daughter really come to visit.
-Mandy
Posted by Mandy | March 2, 2010 11:18 PM
Posted on March 2, 2010 23:18
Dear Mandy,
Yes, your daughter can come to visit. Animals can see the energy of a spirit body more easily than humans. Tabby wouldn't be sad; she would be happy to see your daughter.
-Marianne
Posted by Marianne | March 2, 2010 11:26 PM
Posted on March 2, 2010 23:26
Dear Marianne,
My son committed suicide, and I have dreams of him. In the dreams, he always says goodbye to me. This makes me feel sad. I don't want him to leave.
-Betty
Posted by Betty | March 2, 2010 11:29 PM
Posted on March 2, 2010 23:29
Dear Betty,
Your son's spirit will never leave you even if in life he felt he could not stay. He just may need to say the goodbye he never said to you. If you can't say goodbye then tell him you understand and love him no matter what choice he made.
-Marianne
Posted by Marianne | March 2, 2010 11:32 PM
Posted on March 2, 2010 23:32
After the recent death of "the love of my life", I do feel the sense of oneness that you spoke of. When you hear of the losses of others, it makes you feel that you are not alone in your suffering. My loss has made me realize just how indefinite life is. I want to be with my love in the afterlife and I am searching for that possibility. I am searching for others who have had the experience of contact. Is there the possibility of contact or is it just a farce?
Posted by Carol-Ann Lamothe | April 7, 2010 8:01 PM
Posted on April 7, 2010 20:01
Dear Carol-Ann,
Everyday I see so much proof that our loved ones will be there when we cross over. Every time I talk to a client, their loved one gives them hope.
I knew a man that, after his wife died, the light on his desk began to flicker. He bought a new light; the new one flickers. Now he just looks up and smiles to his wife.
Let go the doubt and trust in the love you shared.
-Marianne
Posted by Marianne | April 7, 2010 8:03 PM
Posted on April 7, 2010 20:03
After my Grandfather and Aunt's husband died I had dreams of them and it was a comfort to me but when my Aunt died unexpectedly 2 years ago I have had none. Does this mean she does not want to talk to me or she will never come in a dream and let me know she is ok?
Posted by P Gonzalez | April 19, 2010 12:16 AM
Posted on April 19, 2010 00:16